Common slang and abbreviations

The terms used on Tryst can sometimes be confusing, especially if this is one of your first interactions with a provider. The article below was written by one of our founders, Lola, and was originally featured on our blog. We're including it here to help you understand terms you may see providers use on their profiles or in messages with you.

The list is long, so you might want to use CMD+F on a Mac or CTRL+F on Windows to find the particular term you are curious about.



Slang and abbreviations have been used by the sex industry for as long as there has been a sex industry. To keep themselves safe, workers created slang language of their own to communicate with one another and their clientele. Being sex worker run, we know that communication is an extremely important part of any intimate meeting.

We also recognise that we exist in a queer space, as a much higher percentage of workers are queer than the general public. Therefore is it vital that the terms that queer people, as well as sex workers use to describe themselves and their services are understandable.

Many people do not have as thorough understanding of these terms as those of us in the industry, but we endeavour to make communication between client and worker as easy as possible. It is imperative to us that clients have a complete understanding of the services that workers are providing. To help clients navigate this more easily, we have made this comprehensive glossary of terms to hopefully ensure clients and workers are able to clearly understand one another.

Common terms

  • Anal play¬†Any sexual play with the anus including toys or anal sex
  • Anal sex¬†Penetration of the anus
  • ATM¬†Ass To Mouth
  • BJ¬†Blow Job
  • BBBJ¬†Bare Back Blow Job, blow job without protection
  • BBBJTC¬†Bare Back Blow Job To Completion
  • BBW¬†Big Beautiful Woman
  • BLS¬†Balls Lick and Suck
  • B&D¬†Bondage and Discipline
  • BDSM¬†Body Domination and Sadomasochism
  • Bondage¬†Restraining or tying up one partner
  • Brazilian¬†Waxing of the public area to remove all hair
  • CBT¬†Cock and Ball Torture
  • CD¬†Cross Dressing
  • CIM¬†Cum in Mouth
  • CIMWS¬†Cum In Mouth With Swallow
  • Cisgender (Cis)¬†The description of a person who identifies with the sex they were assigned at birth
  • CBJ¬†Covered Blow Job
  • COB¬†Cum on Body
  • COF¬†Cum on Face
  • Cougar¬†A mature woman typically seeking a younger man
  • DATY¬†'Dining at the Y' meaning oral sex on a woman
  • DATO¬†'Dining at the Orifice' meaning performing oral sex on someone's anus
  • DFK¬†Deep French Kissing
  • Dirty talk¬†The use of creative language during intercourse
  • DP¬†Double Penetration
  • DDP¬†Double Digit Penetration, one finger in the vagina with one in the anus
  • DT¬†Deep Throat
  • Doggy style¬†A sexual position where one individual penetrates the another from behind
  • FtM (F2M)¬†Female to Male, a description of a trans* person's gender
  • Facial¬†The act of climaxing on a person's face
  • FE¬†Female Ejaculation
  • Feminine/Masculine Presenting¬†A way to describe someone without using specifically gendered language
  • Femme¬†Typically describes a very feminine presenting queer person
  • Fire and ice¬†Giving oral sex while switching between something hot and something cold
  • Fisting¬†Penetration of the anus or the vagina with a fist
  • FK¬†French Kissing
  • French¬†Oral Sex
  • FS¬†Full Service, meaning a sex worker offers a complete sexual experience, usually including penetrative sex
  • GFE¬†Girlfriend Experience
  • Genderfluid¬†The gender identity of people who's relationship to gender changes from time to time
  • Genderqueer¬†A gender identity outside of the male/female binary
  • Greek¬†Anal Sex
  • GS¬†'Golden Shower' typically means watching an individual urinate or having them urinate on someone
  • Happy ending¬†Typically a massage that ends with a hand job
  • HJ¬†Hand Job
  • Italian¬†Rubbing the penis between the buttocks
  • Intersex¬†Term for someone who has an atypical biological sex
  • John¬†A client
  • LK¬†Light Kissing
  • LGBTIQA+¬†Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans* Intersex Queer Asexual +
  • MtF (M2F)¬†Male to Female, a description of a trans* person's gender
  • MILF¬†Mother I'd Like to Fuck
  • MFF¬†Male Female Female
  • MMF¬†Male Male Female
  • Mutual masturbation¬†Two individuals masturbating together
  • Mutual French¬†Both individuals give and receive oral sex
  • Mutual natural French¬†Both individuals give and receive oral sex without protection
  • MSOG¬†Multiple Shots on Goal, meaning a sex worker is able to give the client multiple orgasms
  • Mx¬†A gender neutral title (as opposed to Mr or Ms) often used by non-binary people
  • Natural bush¬†Unshaved or substantial pubic hair
  • Non-binary¬†A spectrum of gender identities outside the male/female binary
  • OWO¬†Oral With Out, a blow job without a condom
  • Pansexual¬†Someone attracted to all gender identities
  • PNDP¬†Please No Dick Pics
  • PSE¬†Porn Star Experience, typically a sexual experience inspired by common pornography
  • Punter¬†A client
  • Queer¬†Someone who is not strictly heterosexual
  • Reg¬†Someone that is seen on the regular
  • Role play¬†Individuals engaging in sexual activity while acting
  • Rimming¬†Orally gratifying someone's anus
  • SAAB¬†Sex Assigned At Birth
  • Snowballing¬†The act of passing semen from one person's mouth to another
  • Spanish¬†Rubbing the penis between breasts
  • Spit roasting¬†Giving oral sex to one individual while being penetrated from behind by another
  • Squirting¬†Female ejaculation during orgasm
  • Strap on¬†A dildo designed to 'strap on' to a person
  • Strip tease¬†An erotic dance that involves taking clothes off
  • SW¬†Sex Worker/s
  • Tea bagging¬†Placing the scrotum into¬†someones mouth
  • Toy show¬†A masturbation toy show i.e., dildos, vibrators
  • Transgender¬†A gender description for those who have a gender identity or expression that differs from the sex assigned at birth. Some, but not all, transgender people may have undergone or plan to undergo surgery to confirm their gender presentation.
  • Trans* An umbrella term covering identities that transgress binary gender norms
  • Tromboning¬†A sexual act that involves giving someone's anus oral sex while masturbating their penis
  • TTM¬†Testicular Tongue Massage
  • Water sports¬†Sexual acts that involve urine
  • WL¬†Working Lady/s